Ya ever have a donkey kick you in the back of the head? Yeah, me either. But it kind of feels like I got kicked in the head today.
In my posts, I have a tendency to bloviate about politics which is something I never thought I'd have any interest in at all.
I got very involved in the politics of gun ownership and game laws when I started a hunting and fishing website and started getting the word out about anti-gun initiatives. In the midst of that, we started a new Presidential campaign cycle and the flood gates opened. Now I'm an absolute news junkie, political student (unofficially) and unrelenting rabble-rouser.
But believe it or not, there are some issues that I don't have strong opinions on. I may have opinions on them, but they're issues I don't get all crazy about.
Abortion: As a man I can have an opinion, however as a man my rights are limited, as are my perspectives - so I have a tendency to keep my thoughts to myself.
Crime & Punishment: Since it's not an issue that affects me directly, I don't get all nuts about this. I do have my opinions on this, though. I used to do some website work for our local sheriff's office, and one of my jobs was updating the E-Sorn list (the list of local sexual offenders). One of these days, if I get a wild hair, I may give you my perspectives on that. Until that hair grows, it's not that important.
Education: Sorry. I don't get all goofy about this. I know it's an important issue, but school was never an important part of my life, so I don't get all up on it.
Culture and Influence: Yeah, this one I do get my ire up about sometimes. I don't think it's right to tell off-color jokes in front of children, introduce racist or hateful thoughts to kids, or corrupt the "family hour" of television with a bunch of adult-based programming. But is it something I need to blog about? Nah... not now. Maybe when something ticks me off.
Gay Rights/Equality Issues: This is another area that I don't have a strong opinion about. I inadvertently find myself getting dragged into debates about it, when actually I don't have what some would consider a personal stake in the issue, or some kind of strong stance like I do on other issues. I normally try to stay neutral when I get involved in these debates, but somehow because I don't take a strong stance, someone gets a thorn in their butt. I recently got into it with an old friend who now lives in Long Beach. She was all in my face about Prop 8, when all I said was that the issue was legally placed on the ballot, legally voted upon and legally defeated. I offered no opinions as to whether things should be one way or the other, just facts. It took a long time to get it through her head that I wasn't taking a stand - except to suggest that the rule of law had been properly followed and that the majority vote needed to be respected, and not overruled by some activist judge that holds himself higher than the voice of the voters themselves.
Where is this blog leading? I'm getting there...
I was watching the news and saw where Perez Hilton, famous for internet commentary, asked a Miss USA contestant from California about her opinions on gay marriage. Gay marriage is a lava-hot issue in California as it was just voted down by the voters of California. There have been protests after protests after protests about "Prop 8" in California, and it's not going to be resolved any time soon. Anyway...
After Hilton asked her, Miss California remarked that she believed that marriage was defined as being between a man and a woman. She apologized to those who she may have alienated due to her opinion, but she stuck to her gut. Shortly after the competition was over (she didn't win), Hilton, who is gay, posted a blog ripping her apart, calling her a "dumb bitch".
I made a comment on Facebook that I felt she was to be congratulated for having the guts to tell the truth based on her upbringing and opinion. I further thought that Hilton needed to be chastised for the way he handled the whole thing. When I was further asked about this issue as the blog progressed, I simply stated that I felt that Hilton chose the wrong forum in which to inject the debate, that as a judge in the pageant he unfairly put the contestant "on the spot" in front of a national audience about an incredibly polarizing topic and that his online reaction was abhorrently inappropriate because he's the one that put her in that position in the first place, asked her for her opinion and received an honest answer. Later I even said that had Pat Robertson (700 Club) been a judge and asked the same question, and had the answer (opinion) had come back the opposite way, it would have been a travesty for him to call her a "heathen" on his blog, if he even has a blog.
In no way did I offer an opinion on gay marriage or civil unions, but my own sister-in-law, a stage actress in Houston, got her ire up because I defended Miss California for standing up for herself. She's straight, but she has an increasing clutch of gay friends, and feels very strongly about the issue of equality. Earlier, she agreed with me that Hilton was a pinhead, but as the conversation ensued, she somehow got the idea that the argument was about gay rights, not about whether Hilton was right or wrong in his behavior. When I continued to mention that Hilton was in the wrong (for bringing up a divisive issue in an inappropriate forum and then profanely trashing someone for offering an opinion THAT HE ASKED FOR), the debate got more heated, and she ended up "unfriending me" on Facebook.
So, here's where the mule kicked me. It doesn't matter if you're left or right, gay or straight, male or female, black or white... you're entitled to an opinion. You're further entitled to keep your opinion to yourself. Other people are fully permitted to have differing opinions too. If for some reasons these opinions should be made public, and they are not in any way similar, it doesn't make one opinion WRONG or RIGHT... it just makes it different. Because people are entitled to their own opinions, which are simply opinions and neither wrong nor right, it is inappropriate for one of those opinions to be called wrong or right, for it is just an opinion and opinions cannot be wrong or right. (Catch the drift?)
Therefore, to attack someone over an opinion rather than have a useful debate that may either persuade or (at the very least) inform is inappropriate. Further, to call someone a "dumb bitch" because of an opinion that she was asked to give doesn't solve, inform, persuade or ingratiate anyone.
I will further inject that opinions are different than judgments. I may have an opinion about the way I want my life to proceed, and my opinion on what is right and wrong in this world. It's an entirely different thing to place judgment on the things I opine as right or wrong. Judgments are actionable, where opinions are not. I not only offered no opinions on gay equality, but I similarly offered no judgments.
We live in a culture that if someone offers a differing opinion, they're wrong. We've gotten so closed-minded that we're not even willing to listen to another point of view without getting our undies bunched up over it. Respectful debate (without name-calling or finger-pointing) is a lost art.
I have challenged people to debate me, most recently on my last blog, if they have a differing opinion. Truthfully, I'm interested in knowing dissenting views on the opinions I hold, because if I don't know the other side of an issue, how can I be fully informed enough to offer an intelligent debate for my own side?
I am white, straight and male, but I have friends that are not white, straight or male. I can get along with just about anyone unless my personal pursuit of life, liberty and happiness is threatened. If there's ever a time when our opinions differ, please respect my friendship enough to debate me respectfully. I promise to do my best to offer you the same respect, even if I vehemently disagree with you...
...and that's the way I see it.